As most of you already know...Isaiah sleeps in bed with us. He was in his crib for a little while, but every time we traveled he always ended up in bed with us.....either because he was sick, teething, or we just wanted some sleep.
We tried the Ferber method when he was about 8 1/2 months and it didn't work then. We are just so torn as to what to do.
We have 2 friends who had their first born's in bed with them and when the second ones came...then they put them in their crib and let them cry it out. Both said they cried for about an hour for three nights and now they are sleeping in their cribs.
Dave and I go back and forth...Isaiah does not sleep now even sleeping with us so I don't think that he would sleep any better in his crib and then we would be up and down the hall all night long. Plus...I would not be able to be the one to do it...I would have to leave the house for those nights and wait until he was sleeping to return home. Last time we did it...I felt so sick listening to him cry hysterically....there is no way I can do it again...plus being pregnant I don't think I should stress out about it.
So we are still debating what to do....we may wait until the baby arrives and see how he is then. A lot of people have said that between 14 and 16 months their babies started sleeping through the night if they were not before. Let's pray that Isaiah will do that soon!
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WELL, IT IS A DIFFICULT QUESTION..IT IS GREAT HAVING THE I MAN IN BED..BUT, I KNOW THAT WHEN #2 COMES IT WILL BE VERY TOUGH...SO, I THINK THAT WHEN MRS WAHL (MY WONDERWOMAN MOTHER IN LAW) COMES OUT--SHE WILL DO IT...
MY WIFE IS STILL THE BEST---SHE MADE SOME GREAT TACO'S TONIGHT...I THINK A GUYS HEART IS REALLY IN HIS STOMACH...
I LOVE YOU-D
Michele,
I feel for you really..I have told you this before that I really can't imagine how it must be to have not slept an uninterrupted night in 14 months. And now the new baby coming shortly...Yikes! I am so sorry I don't have any advice. I know what worked for me and my babies but it is just that and we are not you or Isaiah. Unfortunatly or fortunatly it is only you who knows what you and Isaiah can handle no one else. So it is you that will fix, sustain or endure this problem. Today's reading reminded me of you. When Mary is presenting Jesus in the Temple, Simeon tells her, "and you yourself a sword will pierce" He is referring to the suffering she will endure because she is his mother. Isaiah crying in his crib for you is one sword of many that will pierce your heart, but take comfort in knowing that you are not the first mother to have your heart pierced nor will you be the last. You can do this it will be hard but I know you are a strong woman!
My prayers are with you....C
In these situations, I always refer to Red Green, a famous Canidian who has his own cable TV show. His remedy for just about any situation is to use Duct Tape. Now how you guys go about applying this to your problem should be your decision! But being the great parents that you are, I'm sure you'll figure something out.
Regards, The guy married to the Wonderwomen Mother-in-law. PS If you have any other problems, please don't hesitate to call the I-mans g-pa
Hi Michele, Dave & Isaiah. I almost commented after your previous blog last Friday when you mentioned Isaiah's not sleeping. Let me share with you my experience as a mom and as a babysitter. First, please know that Uncle Chris kids that the umbilical cords have never been cut between our children and me. So, know how hard it is to sometimes make the decision that is best for the whole family. You both have been blessed with a beautiful, happy baby boy. He is your first and I don't mean to take anything away from however many other children you have. Ashley was our first. Much like Isaiah. At about 9 months (which is funny because you mentioned trying the Ferber method at 81/2 months - I didn't realize there was a name for the method)she still did not sleep though the night. I worked full-time and probably didn't realize that I was pregnant at the time (Ash & Sean are 18 mos apart). Something within me said that she was getting older and should be sleeping through the night. She was so petite I thought maybe she needed to eat....different versions of what all good parents would think because we don't want our child to suffer. Chris and I rented a two bedroom condo at the time. Some parents let them cry it out at a very young age but at 9 months, or in your case 14 mos, we just knew she was not an infant and knew of our love. Uncle Chris was braver than me and was a great source of comfort, as I feel Dave will be, for when she was crying and screaming. She did cry for over a half hour the first night, a little less the second, less the third and by about the fourth or 5th night no crying. Michele, you are stronger than you can imagine and if you make the decision, God will lead you throught it. You all need proper rest. It really is in Isaiah's best interest. Being a parent is the hardest job you will ever have but it is also very rewarding. The others were easier because I don't think I waited as long. They were tired when they went to bed, dry, had a bath...all the usual nighttime routines. I was also tired as a parent of more than one. Knock on wood I was very consistent, even when sick, of making sure they were back in their beds and they just have always slept in their own beds. Isaiah wouldn't learn to walk without falling. It's the same with his finding his own way to soothe himself to sleep. When you don't come, he will adjust. Just pray, cover your ears, but be there for you want to be a part of his victory. Ashley has had many, many vitories since that less than 1 week in her life. I would tell Isaiah in a loving way what you are doing as he understands much more than he can say. Even if he doesn't completely understand, if you are consistent and tell him each night, he will get it. The same should follow for a good nap. You will need this when you have the baby. In my babysitting, the children who napped well were happier and fun. Their parents had similar experiences. It seems to go with the territory of our being there to guide them as they pass through us. As you love him over the years, in small ways you have to let go a little at a time. This way he will be independent, his future wife will thank you and he won't be still living at home at 40! We love you guys and feel your pain. Be strong, be loving...pray about it and go for it! Wait until your son tell you he want to enlist in the Marines as Sean just did. We have to be ready as parents for the journey.
...forgot to mention to praise him each day for his improvement. Remember he is going to have two adjustments - sleeping in his crib consistently and not having you go in when he cries out.
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